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7 Better Questions to ask at Your Thanksgiving Table Instead of "What are you Grateful for?"

A good reflection question can help elevate your "dinner party with turkey and stuffing" to a meaningful Thanksgiving ritual.

But most years I watch people fall back on the same old "What's one thing you're grateful for from this past year?" It's good for kids and as a warm up for people who don't know each other well, but it doesn't always lead to deep reflection and conversation. (Quick tip: Even just tweaking the phrasing to "What's a moment from this past year that you felt awe or a deep sense of gratitude?" can bring out richer sharing.)

So here are some of my favorite questions that dig a little deeper, encourage storytelling, and make space for shadow. Be a brave host and try something new this year, I dare you. You might just learn something new about the people around you who you know so well, and yourself.


When was the last time you felt truly appreciated? (from Holstee reflection cards)

Describe a moment of kindness from this past year that really meant something to you.

What privileges, advantages, or blessings in your life have you taken for granted this past year?

Give the person on your right a compliment that you don't think they hear enough. (from We’re Not Really Strangers)

What's a moment from this past year when you felt awe or a deep sense of gratitude?

What's something in your life that could benefit from an orientation of gratitude?

What are three things you've learned about gratitude?

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